Were you Engulfed or Ignored? Insights into Narcissistic Moms

By Val Boyko • April 1st, 2011

narcissist momDr Karyl McBride has a new blog on Psychology Today. It has great insights into narcissism and the affect on daughters. In a recent post she writes:

Maternal narcissism has many faces….. Narcissistic mothering presents in either engulfing or ignoring behaviors. Although this sounds counter-intuitive, I found the impact of the opposite to be the same in the effects on children. Some mothers combine these opposing behaviors intermittently depending on mood….

The engulfing mother smothers, seemingly unaware of her daughter’s unique needs or desires. She tries to dominate and control every aspect of her daughter’s life.The child has little room to grow and develop into her own person and find her own voice. This kind of mother looks good to society because she is over attentive but she is not tuning into her child’s emotional world….

The ignoring mother under-parents and does not provide guidance, support, or attention. These ignoring behaviors create deep emotional gaps in a child’s life that can go undetected for years. This kind of mother is also not in touch with the emotional world of the child. Both types lack empathy, the cornerstone of maternal narcissism.

Read the full article on Dr Karyl McBride’s new blog

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Dr. Karyl McBride, author of Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers, presents her five-step recovery model for daughters of narcissistic mothers. A 2 and ½ day workshop at the Inverness Hotel in Denver, is scheduled for October 7, 8 and 9, 2011. For you and your clients the five-step model includes:

•Learn how to accept your mother’s limitations.

•Gain assistance in the grief process required for healing.

•Recognize the importance of separation/individuation and the significance to building your own sense of self.

•Work on becoming your authentic self.

•Discover how to deal with your mother and have healthy interaction with appropriate boundaries.

•Learn how to deal differently with narcissistic family dynamics including fathers and siblings who don’t understand.

•Stop the legacy of distorted love in parenting, love relationships and friendships.

Register now! The deadline for registration is October 1, 2011. 20 hour CEU letter available for therapists.
Go to http://www.nevergoodenough.com or call 303-420-9565.

Would love to have you join us!
Dr. K.

Thanks for letting us know about Dr Karyl McBride’s upcoming workshop. It sounds wonderful – and empowering!!


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