Seeing Your Mother With Different Eyes

By Marlene Durrell • November 1st, 2010

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Seeing our mother with  different eyes or in other words seeing her as others see her helps us to gain perspective.  We often don’t realize how different she appears to others especially when we are caught up in the day to day challenges of the typical mother/daughter relationship where friction and button pushing get in the way of appreciation.

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By susan master on November 1st, 2010 at 2:06 pm

While I was reading “Seeing Your Mother With Different Eyes” I was reminded of a conversation I had with my mother while she was still alive. My mother was a very private woman who always kept her emotions in check and seemed uncomfortable when other people publicly displayed their feelings….affection, joy, sadness, etc. Being a highly sensitive child who felt every nuance of emotion, I longed for a mother who knew how to comfort me and who understood how I felt. I grew to sense that my feelings weren’t “normal”. You can imagine my surprise when my mother revealed to me that if she had purposed a career, it would have been as a mental health counselor! Which was exactly my chosen field. Wow! I finally received “permission” from her to be my true self. I am still working on understanding the dichotomy between her inner and outer selves. My Mother Whisperer journey continues. Thanks for the opportunity to share and grow.

Thanks Susan – I can relate on many levels to your post. It’s such a learning when we have an honest grown up moment with our mothers. When our mothers share with us as an adult woman and we see them in the same way.

 

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