OMG – Did I Marry my Mother?

By Val Boyko • October 1st, 2010

Mothers have a big influence on who we choose as partners. There is a lot that is fairly obvious, based on our mothers’ personal experience and beliefs, but what if there is also something more primal going on here?

No relationship is quite as primal as the one between a mother and her daughter. It is our first intimate love relationship, and therefore has a profound affect on our later romantic relationships.
Some therapists also believe that we choose a partner who is like the parent who feels most familiar to us as children.

It makes me wonder – seriously – Did I marry my Mother?

I had thought I had married someone like my father, but in fact, it was someone who has more in common with my mother and her way of loving!

Am I out on a limb here, or can someone else relate to this…….?


Leave a Comment

« | Home | »

  • Join The Mother Whisperers Community

    Become a Member
    * indicates required
  • group of women
  • COMMUNICATION QUIZ - Can You Make These Statements?

    Ask yourself if you make any of the following 15 statements. Find out if you are expressing yourself fully and are communicating with openness and presence.
    • SCORING The highest possible score is 30, and the lowest is zero. The higher the score, the higher your likelihood of having success in all your relationships. 0-9: You probably find yourself frustrated in relationships (especially with your mother) more often than you would like. 10-15: You have a high aptitude for relating and are open to learning 16-24: You have good relationship skills. How can you apply them more to your mother relationship? 25-30: Congratulations! Your capacity for present-centered relating is at a very high level.
  • Categories

  • Blogroll

  • Archives

Please make an appointment to talk about what's going in your relationship and to see if coaching or our services would help!