Mothers and Daughters as Imperfect Roses

By Val Boyko • March 19th, 2011

rose in full bloomThis post is dedicated to the wonderful women I was in conversation with today! Lisa, thank you from my heart for making this happen.

None of us has a perfect life. We are  imperfect. Yet we manage to overcome difficulties and manage to be magnificent and triumphant. So writes Patricia Commins in her book “Remembering Mother, Finding Myself“. She continues with a story that touched me:

In my garden there was an imperfect rose. A rabbit took a bite out of one side, nibbling away the first few layers of petals. But the rose continued to form and later bloomed. As it grew, three quarters of the rose was perfect, but one quarter of the rose was missing, with only the ragged edges to remind me of the damage the rabbit did. A few days later the rose had bloomed fully, opening it’s petals to reveal its golden center. Fully mature, the damaged petals were completely compensated for by the unfolding of the blossom.

We are all like that rose. There may have been some damage done to us as children, most likely unintentionally as our mothers reacted to the stresses of their own lives and upbringing. But we still managed to bloom.

Val comment: Somehow it makes our blooming the more precious doesn’t it….. May we all find the beauty of our mature blooming!

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