Is Your Mother Pushing Your Buttons?

By Val Boyko • December 22nd, 2010
Lots of buttons in Mother Daughter Relationships!

So many buttons that get pushed!

Let’s talk about buttons. We all have them and they go hand in hand with mothers and daughters!

I’m not talking about the kind of buttons we have on our clothes, or our navel. This kind of button is an automatic reaction in our unconscious mind. Sometimes we don’t even know it’s a button that’s being pushed.

We know it’s a button when we recognize we are getting stirred up, triggered and overreacting during or after an interaction. We feel upset, and know the conversation hasn’t gone well.

When our present situation reminds us of a previous experience that caused us to to be afraid, anxious or angry, we can get triggered big time!

Our mothers know us and know our buttons well. Some would say that they created a lot of them. (And that’s whole different post coming soon!)

As daughters we have also learned from our Mothers’ buttons, and we can be just as adept at pushing them, as well as avoiding them.

What buttons does your Mother push?

What buttons of hers are you good at pushing – or avoiding?

As Mother Whisperers it can be helpful (and freeing!) to explore all kinds of buttons and what we can do about them. There are many different kinds of buttons that appear in our mother relationship, and we’d like to help you get free from yours.

Find out more about buttons here.


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