Debbie Reynolds and Carrie Fisher on the Oprah Show

By Val Boyko • February 18th, 2011

Did you see Debbie Reynolds and Carrie Fisher on the Oprah Winfrey show earlier this week? Carrie shares her struggle as a daughter of a famous mother as well as her addiction issues.

What do you think about it? It was moving to hear them share as simply Mom and Daughter. A daughter who has struggled for most of her life with herself and her mother relationship. A mother hurting as she sees her daughter suffering with mental illness and addiction. I wish them well on their journey.

Here are some quotes from the article on Oprah’s website

Carrie says it wasn’t always easy to be the daughter of such a glamorous woman. “I thought I looked like a thumb,” she says.

“My mother would get up in the morning as my mother and then she would go into this big closet she had,” she says. “She’d go in on this end as my mom and she’d come out the other end as Debbie Reynolds. It was like a car wash for celebrities.”
Even in her days as a sci-fi pin-up, Carrie says she thought she was fat. “My self-image is just whacked from having the movie star mom,” she says.

Both mother and daughter talked about the difficulties in their mother daughter relationship.

In Carrie’s early 20s, she says she had a fairly volatile relationship with her mother. “I didn’t want to be around her,” she says. “I did not want to be Debbie Reynolds’ daughter.”

Debbie says that was a painful time for her. “It’s very hard when your child doesn’t want to talk to you but you want to talk to them,” she says. “That was the most difficult time of all.”
Carrie says she was angry. “You’re individuating yourself. This is a very powerful person and in order to have my own identity, I have to sort of forge some kind of character out of nothing,” she says. “I wanted my own life and her life was crazy at that time and I was in it.”

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