Daughters, How To Express Your True Power – Part 2

By Val Boyko • August 12th, 2011

woman freeI believe that true power lies inside all of us. When we access it we become free to be our true selves.

Here are more useful tips for accessing the power within you during interactions, rather than giving your power away.

If you missed part 1 of this post with three steps to start working on, then click here first!

4. Be present.

Come into the here and now and let go of the past and what happened before. The future begins in the present moment and whatever you do right now.  By being in the present you have the power to create your future.

5. Breathe.

When you are present you are tuned into what is happening in that moment. This allows you to respond to triggers and set boundaries. A simple way to become present is to really focus on your breath.

Take a deep breath now. Really fill your lungs and exhale slowly. Feel how it slows you down.

When a button gets pushed, next time take a big breath in and become an observer of what is happening.

6. Communicate to give yourself space.

You don’t need to answer immediately. When your mother (or your boss!) puts you on the spot, delay your response rather than show you’ve been triggered. Here are some powerful words to practice and have ready to use.

“I don’t have an answer right now.”

“I don’t know. I’ll have to think about it.”

“Let me get back to you on that.”

Are you ready to experiment with these new approaches? Unlearning old behaviors can be much harder than learning something new. Be compassionate with yourself on this path!

As you do so, you will learn to trust yourself. Know that you have the power inside of you. Listen to your own intuition and start acting on it rather than waiting for others….. especially your Mom!

As always, Val is here to offer more advice and support. You’ll also find other resources in the the website by using the search option or clicking on categories/topics.



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