Archive for Relationships

What is the the Greatest “Relationship Changing” Skill You Can Learn and Apply?

This is a popular re-post and useful perspective for dealing with difficult situations and people. Val xoxo Q. What is the greatest “relationship changing” skill you can learn and apply? A. Understanding “The Three Realities” This is one of the first skills I learned when I was training to become a coach. Over the years […]

BYOB Party Tips for the New Year

This is a re-post from last year. Enjoy! BYOB parties and family gatherings abound at this time of year. I’m not talking about Bring Your Own Bottle or Booze, but Bring Your Own Buttons! If you are about to go to a gathering where your buttons are on red alert and likely to be pushed, […]

Top 5 Tips for Surviving the Holidays

I hope you enjoy this timely re-post: One of the biggest stress makers during the Holidays is when you spend an extended length of time with your mother and family. Let’s face it, spending 24-7 with anyone can be stressful, so here is some Mother Whisperer wisdom to help you make it through this year […]

Communication 101 for Daughters and Mothers – #9 Share How You Feel (eek!)

One of the toughest communication skills from Dr Susan Campbell is to  “Speak our pain without blame”. Sharing how we feel is a very vulnerable place for most of us. We are revealing our true selves, without knowing how the other person will respond. When we share how we feel we open our heart. Even […]

When An Aging Mother Becomes Hard to Love

John Welwood shares a story about his mother and how over time, an old wound became a  grievance that poisoned everything and took away the joy and beauty in her life. If you are dealing with an aging mother who is difficult to love and its getting you down, then read on. In the book […]

Labeling Keeps Daughters and Mothers Stuck! (and I’m not talking about post-it notes)

Thanks for all the feedback on the recent post Venting About Mom Won’t Bring You Peace. When we vent it feels good for a short while. It’s healthy to express our anger too. But for many daughters it’s difficult to move forward, and so the cycle of  hurt-anger-venting continues. Rather than looking at what’s going […]

Accepting Your Narcissistic Mother

In reading about maternal narcissism, one of the common issues for daughters of narcissistic mothers is how hard it is to accept that their mothers are not how they had always hoped they would be – accepting Mom as she is not! Coming to terms with the reality of a “less than perfect”‘ mother is […]

Daughters, How To Express Your True Power – Part 2

I believe that true power lies inside all of us. When we access it we become free to be our true selves. Here are more useful tips for accessing the power within you during interactions, rather than giving your power away. If you missed part 1 of this post with three steps to start working […]

Venting About Mom Won’t Bring You Peace

How come so many women put up with frustration around their mothers? Its so common,  it’s a standard joke of comedians and story lines in books, theater and television. Its something that we can share, laugh about and cry over. One way that many of us find relief is by venting about what we are […]

Daughters, How to Express Your True Power – Part 1

Many adult daughters in their 30’s, 40’s 50’s and even 60’s are still giving their power away to their mothers. Some women seem to think that there is no other way to be. That this is inevitable. Its something that we have to put with. Well, I’m here to tell you that it isn’t. If […]

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  • COMMUNICATION QUIZ - Can You Make These Statements?

    Ask yourself if you make any of the following 15 statements. Find out if you are expressing yourself fully and are communicating with openness and presence.
    • SCORING The highest possible score is 30, and the lowest is zero. The higher the score, the higher your likelihood of having success in all your relationships. 0-9: You probably find yourself frustrated in relationships (especially with your mother) more often than you would like. 10-15: You have a high aptitude for relating and are open to learning 16-24: You have good relationship skills. How can you apply them more to your mother relationship? 25-30: Congratulations! Your capacity for present-centered relating is at a very high level.
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