Archive for Resolving Conflict

Labeling Keeps Daughters and Mothers Stuck! (and I’m not talking about post-it notes)

Thanks for all the feedback on the recent post Venting About Mom Won’t Bring You Peace. When we vent it feels good for a short while. It’s healthy to express our anger too. But for many daughters it’s difficult to move forward, and so the cycle of  hurt-anger-venting continues. Rather than looking at what’s going […]

How Good A Listener Are You? Take This Self Listening Test And Find Out.

To truly listen to someone we must be present – without distractions or interference in our heads. Its estimated that the average human being has 5,000 thoughts per day. Real thinkers can have over 50,000 thoughts. Now that’s a lot of buzz, interference and distraction going on! Here is a series of simply tests to […]

Communication 101 for Daughters and Mothers – #5 The Power of Empathy

One of our fundamental longings as human beings is to be heard and be understood. Take a moment to recall a time where you were having difficulty and someone empathized with you. How did it feel? Pretty good I expect! When someone empathizes with us we don’t feel judged: We no longer feel alone; We […]

THE Question to ask Next Time You Get Triggered – video tip

Here’s a great mini chapter from Brian Johnson’s Philosophers Notes on what to ask when you get super critical and a button is pushed! “Notice when you’re being super critical of other people and know that you’re just observing something within YOU that you need to address.Then celebrate the opportunity to grow as you count […]

Communication 101 for Daughters and Mothers – #4 The One Word To Avoid When There’s Conflict

Have you experienced a conversation with your mother or daughter, and before you know it, it becomes open warfare? Something has been triggered big time! Today’s tip is to share with you the one word that is sure to push buttons and put the other person on the defensive. Avoid saying  “YOU”! Let me explain…. […]

Steps to Forgiveness

I wonder how this resonates with you. Do you find it easy to forgive and are a more easy going person? Or do you find it difficult to forgive and are more of a “rulebook” person who likes things to be a certain way?
Let me know if this theory stands up in real life!

Its All About Me! – Life’s Biggest Lesson

Some of us go through life looking to other people to make us feel good. As long as we do that we will also blame others and circumstances when things don’t go our way. When it comes to mothers and daughters, it can certainly become a habit! When we hurt or feel attacked a usual […]

6 Steps To Have The Relationship You Want With Your Mother

Question: How do I want my relationship with my mother to be? Answer: Start to craft the daughter mother relationship that works for me now. Face the issues and work on them before it’s too late!   This is Denise McGregor’s strategy in her book Mama Drama. She suggests we begin with the end and […]

Mother Whisperers Project – Communication 101 Series for Daughters and Mothers

Starting in May we answer the question “How do I communicate with my mother in order to build a better relationship? ” But first some background…. As you may know I am a big fan of Brian Johnson and his Philosophers Notes. I met Brian last year and loved his thirst for knowledge and the […]

Advice on Making Peace With Mom Before It’s Too Late

Here are Short Takes from Iris Krasnow from her book I Am My Mother’s Daughter, Making Peace with Mom-Before It’s Too Late. I really enjoyed this book. There are many women’s stories, including Iris’s own. She writes with humor and a journalistic edge! When I came across it I realized that Iris expresses everything I […]

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  • COMMUNICATION QUIZ - Can You Make These Statements?

    Ask yourself if you make any of the following 15 statements. Find out if you are expressing yourself fully and are communicating with openness and presence.
    • SCORING The highest possible score is 30, and the lowest is zero. The higher the score, the higher your likelihood of having success in all your relationships. 0-9: You probably find yourself frustrated in relationships (especially with your mother) more often than you would like. 10-15: You have a high aptitude for relating and are open to learning 16-24: You have good relationship skills. How can you apply them more to your mother relationship? 25-30: Congratulations! Your capacity for present-centered relating is at a very high level.
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