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Tips for Dealing With Mother’s Guilt Trips

It isn’t easy to step back and be mindful when you feel criticized, triggered and guilty, especially when it comes from your mother. Understanding what is going on inside of her and what’s behind the guilt trip can help daughters shift gears and regain their thoughtful adult self! According to Denise McGregor in her book […]

The 3 Steps to Break Free of Guilt in the New Year

As I’m writing about guilt I realize that this is the time when we set resolutions for the New Year. Are you yearning to break free of the mother daughter guilt trap in 2012? For many of you it may seem impossible, but I know that it is possible and comes down to these three […]

BYOB Party Tips for the New Year

This is a re-post from last year. Enjoy! BYOB parties and family gatherings abound at this time of year. I’m not talking about Bring Your Own Bottle or Booze, but Bring Your Own Buttons! If you are about to go to a gathering where your buttons are on red alert and likely to be pushed, […]

Guilt, Mothers and Daughters – Break Free of This Gruesome Threesome

Mothers making daughters feel guilty has been coming up in conversations lately. It must be the Season! If you got the gift of guilt from your mother for Christmas this year, then you won’t want to miss our next posts and article about guilt. What is guilt? Why does feeling guilty feel so bad? Why […]

What I’ve Learned On My Mother Whisperers Journey

As most of you know, I’ve been on my own Mother Whisperers  journey for the past couple of years. I’d like to share with you what I have learned and where I am now. It started with wanting to understand more about daughters and mothers and how to master this special relationship … and it […]

An Unexpected Word That Can Change Your Mother Daughter Relationship

As I finished our last post on sharing our pain without blame, and expressing our feelings,  I remembered a great tip from my mentor coach Jay Perry. As we learn to let go of suppressing our feelings and practice sharing how we feel, there is one simple word that can have a powerful impact. Its […]

Daughters, How to Keep Your True Power – A Final Word About Boundaries

Over the summer I’ve been sharing insights into how we can express our true power as daughters. Today I’ll share a final word of advice. Before I do, here’s a summary of the strategies that we’ve covered so far: 1. Be aware of your interactions and how much your mother is still influencing you. 2. […]

Labeling Keeps Daughters and Mothers Stuck! (and I’m not talking about post-it notes)

Thanks for all the feedback on the recent post Venting About Mom Won’t Bring You Peace. When we vent it feels good for a short while. It’s healthy to express our anger too. But for many daughters it’s difficult to move forward, and so the cycle of  hurt-anger-venting continues. Rather than looking at what’s going […]

Daughters, How To Express Your True Power – Part 2

I believe that true power lies inside all of us. When we access it we become free to be our true selves. Here are more useful tips for accessing the power within you during interactions, rather than giving your power away. If you missed part 1 of this post with three steps to start working […]

Communication 101 for Daughters and Mothers – #7 The Gift Behind Complaining

Have you ever had a conversation and had a new insight that really sticks? I call these “nuggets”. Like pieces of gold that we can take with us to enrich our lives. I recall a conversation with Dr Susan Campbell about communicating in relationships and here’s one of her nuggets that have stuck with me. […]

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  • COMMUNICATION QUIZ - Can You Make These Statements?

    Ask yourself if you make any of the following 15 statements. Find out if you are expressing yourself fully and are communicating with openness and presence.
    • SCORING The highest possible score is 30, and the lowest is zero. The higher the score, the higher your likelihood of having success in all your relationships. 0-9: You probably find yourself frustrated in relationships (especially with your mother) more often than you would like. 10-15: You have a high aptitude for relating and are open to learning 16-24: You have good relationship skills. How can you apply them more to your mother relationship? 25-30: Congratulations! Your capacity for present-centered relating is at a very high level.
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