Capturing Your Mother’s Story – Part II The Interview

By Val Boyko • May 20th, 2011

daughter and mother talkingIf interviewing your mother feels daunting to you, here are some different approaches you can take, along with questions to ask.

Talking to mother about the family history is usually a good place to start. It becomes natural and easy if we never knew our grandparents, or we want to capture the history as a legacy for our own children.

If there are photographs around, then ask about the story behind them. What was happening? Why was Aunt Susan laughing etc.

I recall when I was little, that  as my grandmother got older she would talk about the past and reminisce. I found it boring being so young, but now wish I could be there as an adult to hear the insights and dynamics from the past. If your mother is starting to reminisce then see it an opening for you to be curious and listen with an open heart.

When you see a twinkle in your mother’s eye, then keep going! When you notice discomfort or pain, then be with her, don’t back off. Keep listening and be present. Where ever there is pain, there is often something about to be revealed so it can be healed.

To read the questions you can ask your mother – click here.

 

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