BYOB Party Tips for the New Year

By Val Boyko • December 29th, 2011

This is a re-post from last year. Enjoy!

BYOB parties and family gatherings abound at this time of year. I’m not talking about Bring Your Own Bottle or Booze, but Bring Your Own Buttons! Bring Your Own Button Button

If you are about to go to a gathering where your buttons are on red alert and likely to be pushed, check out more about buttons here and remember these button tips:

  • Button Up. If you want to avoid upsets and meltdowns, then resolve to keep your mouth closed and not let others provoke you. This is not the best time to open up old wounds of your own or others! If you find yourself joining in with gossip and complaining about your mother or family, then button up then as well.  Come from a place of kindness and appreciation for the family you have, rather than being drawn into the drama.
  • You don’t need to be as cute as a button. Being entertaining and fun to be around can lighten any occasion and divert attention from potential button disasters, but if you don’t feel like playing this role, don’t. Simply be yourself and be kind instead.
  • You don’t need to be on the button either. Allow yourself to relax and let go. This is a stressful time and you can only control so much – and definitely not your mother or family members.
  • No need to keep everything buttoned down either! Relax and take a time out whenever you feel that pressure to conform building. Be yourself and be kind.
  • Now and for the New Year, resolve to BYBK (be yourself, be kind) instead of BYOB.




Hi Val,
This is a very clever post. I had to button up on several occasions myself this past Holiday season. I feel so much better that I did not participate in any negativity.
take care…

So glad this helped Justin!


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