Accepting our Imperfect Selves and our Imperfect Mothers

By Val Boyko • April 5th, 2011

“None of us is perfect.” That means I am not perfect. You are not perfect. Daughters are not perfect. Mothers are not perfect. It’s a phrase we use, but we don’t necessarily live by.

I remember when I was younger, if someone had told me I wasn’t perfect, I would have been upset. How dare they  criticize me! (How dare they say the truth I don’t want to face!)

Once we get over trying to be perfect, and enjoy the freedom of being our imperfect selves, the world becomes an easier place to live in. When we live in a place of acceptance, we can be ourselves, rather than striving to be someone else who appears to be perfect, or putting our energy into keeping up appearances.

Trying to be perfect takes up a lot of time and energy. Wouldn’t you rather be living your life and loving yourself instead?

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Last Saturday I had the pleasure of facilitating a workshop on Yoga for Mid Life. It was wonderful to hear the insights that people have gained through their yoga practice. Acceptance is a theme in yoga as well. Particularly we older women who practice alongside young women who have the flexibility of a pretzel and want to power through to perfection!

In yoga, when we can accept ourselves on our mats then we can bring that to our lives off the mat.

With acceptance comes contentment and peace of mind.




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