A Mother Daughter Husband Christmas Story

By Val Boyko • December 13th, 2010

Last year I had my Mum to the US to stay over Christmas. This was the first time she has been away from my brother and his family. We knew it would be a different kind of Holiday, but we hadn’t planned for back to back snow storms and a power outage…….

Being together 24-7 knowing that we weren’t going to do all the fun things we had planned, wasn’t easy. Having my new (passionate Italian American) husband stuck in the house too brought the drama to a whole new level.

If this was a movie, you can picture the scene…. two British women reminiscent of a Masterpiece Theater episode with the Fonz.  It was a classic drama triangle!

For 2 days the script went something like this:

“It’s so unfair, I’m the victim! I’m a better victim than you! I want to be the hero! Don’t make me the villain! I’m a victim because of you! I only wanted to be the hero! How can you let him be such a villain? I’m not a victim Mom – should I be? Is he really a villain? Am I a victim too?”…..

Knowing that it can be difficult, everyone has their points of view and different ways of expressing themselves AND that none of us in perfect is really important to remember!!

I also wish we had shared together the Top 5 Tips for Surviving the Holidays.

May you be ready for whatever the season brings this year!


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