A Mother Daughter Husband Christmas Story – Part 2

By Val Boyko • December 16th, 2010

Some of you may be wondering how my mother, hubby and I broke free of the drama triangle last Christmas and what happened next….. Here’s part 2 of the story and the start of my journey for peace of mind in my own mother relationship.

At the time I didn’t really understand what was going on, but I felt stuck in the middle and torn between the 2 people I love most in the world. I was upset to see both my mother and my husband get so emotional and angry. I felt pulled from one side to the other.

Consoling my mother and consoling my husband didn’t work. So when I felt I was about to burst, I told them both how upset I was, how disappointed that it had come to this, how I loved them both…… and I asked my mother to stop coming between Don and me, it was my marriage and my life.

I stepped out of the drama, shared how I was feeling and set a boundary with my mother. Whew! It wasn’t easy.

In my mind I knew I had to set the record straight – within myself too! It made me see just how much power my mother still had over me  and it started me on my journey to create Mother Whisperers with Marlene.

If you haven’t taken our quiz yet, then this could be a good time for you to see how much power your mother still has over you. Take the Mother Whisperer Quiz here.

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Can I just say what a relief to find someone who definitively knows what they’re talking about on the internet. You as it happens know how to bring an issue to light and make it appropriate. More people need to read this and understand this side of the story. I cant believe youre not more popular because you definitely have the gift.

 

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