Archive for July, 2011

Venting About Mom Won’t Bring You Peace

How come so many women put up with frustration around their mothers? Its so common,  it’s a standard joke of comedians and story lines in books, theater and television. Its something that we can share, laugh about and cry over. One way that many of us find relief is by venting about what we are […]

How Good A Listener Are You? Take This Self Listening Test And Find Out.

To truly listen to someone we must be present – without distractions or interference in our heads. Its estimated that the average human being has 5,000 thoughts per day. Real thinkers can have over 50,000 thoughts. Now that’s a lot of buzz, interference and distraction going on! Here is a series of simply tests to […]

Communication 101 for Daughters and Mothers – #6 Listen to Her!

Effective communication is two way – delivering your message so that it is heard and understood, and listening to the other person so they feel heard and understood. Sounds simple enough, but most of us do more talking that listening. Here’s the first tip to remember – when we are talking we are not listening! […]

Daughters, How to Express Your True Power – Part 1

Many adult daughters in their 30’s, 40’s 50’s and even 60’s are still giving their power away to their mothers. Some women seem to think that there is no other way to be. That this is inevitable. Its something that we have to put with. Well, I’m here to tell you that it isn’t. If […]

Communication 101 for Daughters and Mothers – #5 The Power of Empathy

One of our fundamental longings as human beings is to be heard and be understood. Take a moment to recall a time where you were having difficulty and someone empathized with you. How did it feel? Pretty good I expect! When someone empathizes with us we don’t feel judged: We no longer feel alone; We […]

THE Question to ask Next Time You Get Triggered – video tip

Here’s a great mini chapter from Brian Johnson’s Philosophers Notes on what to ask when you get super critical and a button is pushed! “Notice when you’re being super critical of other people and know that you’re just observing something within YOU that you need to address.Then celebrate the opportunity to grow as you count […]

Being Kind to Mom and Ourselves

Only when we truly accept ourselves the way we are and the way our mothers are, will we find peace of mind. I was reading an earlier post on how it can be difficult being kind to our mothers…. and it hit me that many of us have the same difficulty with being kind to […]

5 Strategies To Overcome Our Childhood Hangovers At Work

In my reading and experience with clients I’ve found that our relationship with our mothers has a powerful long lasting affect on all our relationships as adults – including how we interact with others at work. I call these “childhood hangovers“. We may not even be aware of them at first, but they sure do […]

Puppy Whispering

  I had to share our new pup with you! Meet Dilys – Val’s new Welsh Terrier puppy. Looks like her sister Meg is going to be a great teacher, buddy, role model and mother figure 🙂  

Communication 101 for Daughters and Mothers – #4 The One Word To Avoid When There’s Conflict

Have you experienced a conversation with your mother or daughter, and before you know it, it becomes open warfare? Something has been triggered big time! Today’s tip is to share with you the one word that is sure to push buttons and put the other person on the defensive. Avoid saying  “YOU”! Let me explain…. […]

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  • COMMUNICATION QUIZ - Can You Make These Statements?

    Ask yourself if you make any of the following 15 statements. Find out if you are expressing yourself fully and are communicating with openness and presence.
    • SCORING The highest possible score is 30, and the lowest is zero. The higher the score, the higher your likelihood of having success in all your relationships. 0-9: You probably find yourself frustrated in relationships (especially with your mother) more often than you would like. 10-15: You have a high aptitude for relating and are open to learning 16-24: You have good relationship skills. How can you apply them more to your mother relationship? 25-30: Congratulations! Your capacity for present-centered relating is at a very high level.
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