Archive for April, 2011

Are You a Narcissist Too? How Do You Know? Take This Quiz To Find Out.

Dr Karyl McBride has put together a set of questions to ask yourself if you are concerned that you may be a narcissist. She writes: Many adult children of narcissists report their biggest nightmare is discovering that they too may have some narcissistic traits. If a narcissistic parent raised you, have you wondered that as […]

Being a Response-able daughter or mother – video tip

Here’s a mini chapter in Brian Johnson’s A Philosophers Notes, that is spot on for daughters and mothers communication. When a mother daughter button gets pushed, ask yourself  “How can I be response-able?” Being able to choose an empowered response in the space between the stimulus and our knee jerk reaction takes practice. Why not […]

Advice on Making Peace With Mom Before It’s Too Late

Here are Short Takes from Iris Krasnow from her book I Am My Mother’s Daughter, Making Peace with Mom-Before It’s Too Late. I really enjoyed this book. There are many women’s stories, including Iris’s own. She writes with humor and a journalistic edge! When I came across it I realized that Iris expresses everything I […]

April Mother Whisperers News

Our April newsletter is about to go out. Have you signed up to become a member yet? Don’t worry, we’ll only email you when we think we have something that is insightful and useful.  We hate spam too!! When you sign up to be a member you’ll be able to access our Member Only page […]

Do You Have a “I don’t want to be like my mother” Filter?

We all have filters that we see the world through. In my reading, I haven’t come across the “I don’t want to be like my mother” filter, but I know from my conversations it can be a powerful force in shaping a woman’s life, and their daughters too!

A Daughter Ends 30 years Of Anger and Resentment Towards Her Mother

Here is a powerful confession and uplifting story for every daughter who becomes a mother, looks at the legacy she wants for her own daughters, and mends her mother relationship. Be inspired to face your truth by writer J.R. Barcyndy in Israel. She writes: “I grew up feeling that I had no mother; she resigned […]

Redefine Your Mother Relationship

When you come to see your mother as a human being and want to to build a better relationship with her, its time to ask some important questions: “What is the relationship that I have with my mother now, and how do I want it to be?” And then, “Am I being realistic?” In our […]

Do Mothers and Daughters Really Know Each Other?

Getting to know and understand our mother as a human being is part of the Mother Whisperers journey. For mothers who want to understand their daughters as a person, then this post is for you as well! Both daughters and mothers may have been hurt in the past, but once you have the inner strength […]

Accepting our Imperfect Selves and our Imperfect Mothers

“None of us is perfect.” That means I am not perfect. You are not perfect. Daughters are not perfect. Mothers are not perfect. It’s a phrase we use, but we don’t necessarily live by. I remember when I was younger, if someone had told me I wasn’t perfect, I would have been upset. How dare […]

Guest Writer Rayne Wolfe’s Story – A MUST Read

While Mother Whisperer Val Boyko covers the relationships worth working on, Rayne Wolfe sticks to the other end of the mother/daughter spectrum. She’ll continue to write about self-preservation, boundaries and creating healthy relationships.
The mother/daughter bond is crucial to our well-being, but when those relationships are broken beyond repair there are sane pathways to a happier future. At we have created a safe forum and a language to explore these issues of pain, shame and isolation.

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  • COMMUNICATION QUIZ - Can You Make These Statements?

    Ask yourself if you make any of the following 15 statements. Find out if you are expressing yourself fully and are communicating with openness and presence.
    • SCORING The highest possible score is 30, and the lowest is zero. The higher the score, the higher your likelihood of having success in all your relationships. 0-9: You probably find yourself frustrated in relationships (especially with your mother) more often than you would like. 10-15: You have a high aptitude for relating and are open to learning 16-24: You have good relationship skills. How can you apply them more to your mother relationship? 25-30: Congratulations! Your capacity for present-centered relating is at a very high level.
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